Talking about emotions with children helps them learn that their emotional wellbeing is just as important as their physical health. Children deal with a range of emotions such as jealousy, anger and sadness. Building an environment where emotions are discussed, helps children feel safe when they need help coping with their feelings.
Young children experience big feelings long before they have the words to explain them. One minute they’re laughing, the next they’re overwhelmed. This is completely normal, but without guidance, these emotions can feel confusing or even frightening. Helping children understand and talk about their feelings is a powerful skill that supports their wellbeing, communication, and relationships. In the early years, this emotional learning sets the foundation for later resilience, empathy, and self-regulation.
Why is Talking to Children About Emotions Important?
Emotional Intelligence: It builds their emotional intelligence. By understanding their own emotions and those of others, they can navigate social situations better, build stronger relationships, and have more empathy.
Self-Regulation: It equips them with tools for managing their emotions. When they can identify and label their feelings, they can learn healthy ways to deal with them, like taking deep breaths or talking things out.
Communication Skills: It strengthens their communication skills. By talking about emotions, they develop the vocabulary to express themselves clearly and effectively.
Mental Health: It lays the groundwork for good mental health. Children who understand and can manage their emotions are better equipped to cope with stress, anxiety, and other challenges.
Positive Self-Esteem: It fosters positive self-esteem. When children feel their emotions are acknowledged and validated, it helps them feel secure and accepted.
Top Tips for Talking to Children About Emotions
- Talk about emotions regularly and label them in the moment
- Use books, songs and emotion cards
- Create a feelings chart/ wheel
- Recognise and respond to children’s emotions
- Model healthy responses to emotions
- Do not criticise the child’s emotions
- Introduce simple calming strategies
- Encourage creative expression
- Use phrases like: “I can see you are upset and that’s OK”, “Do you want to talk about how you are feeling?”, and “It is OK to feel angry and upset.”
Talking about emotions with young children is one of the most meaningful gifts we can offer. It helps them understand themselves, build strong relationships, and develop healthy ways of coping with the ups and downs of life.
By creating a space where feelings are named, accepted, and explored, we’re not just teaching emotional vocabulary, we’re nurturing emotionally confident and resilient children.
Useful Links:
Early Years Blog: showcasetraining.co.uk/blog/
NHS – Talking to your child about feelings: nhs.uk/mental-health/children-and-young-adults/advice-for-parents/talk-to-children-about-feelings/
CBeebies – How to talk to your child about emotions: bbc.co.uk/cbeebies/joinin/talking-to-your-child-about-emotions